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Why Respite?

Being in ministry can all-too-often become a 24/7 vocation: emergencies and bereavements never wait for convenient times. It is all too easy for ministers to postpone their much-needed rest time. It is interesting to note that in psychological profiles of people who enter ministry, most would consider themselves to be introverts; this makes sense as the spiritual life is an inward phenomenon in all of us. However, ministry is a very extraverted vocation—involving preaching, teaching, conducting weddings, baptisms and funerals, conducting meetings and more. This can and does take a toll on every minister over time.

In Jack’s work as a minister, and through his work as a training and development officer within the Methodist Church in Great Britain, he discovered that most ministers tend to avoid conflict. Makes sense at one level, doesn’t it? Who wants a confrontational minister? Yet, anyone who has spent even a few years in ministry knows that conflicts regularly arise within church communities. As ministers are considered the leaders of their faith communities—and often are also the chairmen of the trustees for church finances and property—conflict cannot be avoided forever and has to be faced. What then?

And then there are situations which can, for a variety of reasons, become toxic for the minister. This can happen within a congregation, a chaplaincy or social ministry. When that happens, it is not the minister alone who suffers but, if married, the spouse as well. At such times help and nurture are needed. And that is what we offer, for too often help is only available—if at all—for the ordained person.

Who are we?

A picture of Chris and Jack Jack: An ordained minister of 39 years who has worked in both the US and the UK, as a prison chaplain, part of an urban multi-staff church, solo-pastor in town and country settings. Jack also served for nearly 13 years in church training and development work and is well experienced with tools such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator™, FIRO-B® and the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument. Jack also has long experience as a spiritual director for ministers within different denominations.

Chris: Worked for 30 years in child and family mental health in the UK. Chris’s work involved behavioral and psycho-analytic methods, within the whole range of psychological and emotional difficulties. Alongside her professional work she became a Licensed Lay Reader in the Church of England.

What we offer

A picture of bedroom 1 A quiet, safe space; warm hearts and listening ears; privacy and confidentiality; spiritual direction and prayer for up to five nights. This can be tailored to individual needs. As stated above, Jack is licensed to administer the MBTI™ (Steps I & II), FIRO-B® and Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument. For more information about these tools, please refer to Jack’s page on Psychometric Tools under “Training” . Costs for these tools vary over time and can be provided upon request.

Our approach is pastoral as opposed to psychotherapeutic. We have clinical, professional and personal experience on which we draw, and by which we hope to help clergy or couples explore and discern a positive pathway for the future.

How it works & costs

A picture of bedroom 1 We offer a private bedroom and bathroom and breakfast for $50 per room per night or full board at an additional $15 per person.

We can cater for most dietary needs, although we are not a gluten-free, nut-free kitchen.

For more information or in order to book, please call us at 336-815-8114.